GRATITUDE

I’ve been thinking about gratitude and all that I am grateful for in my life.

FAMILY

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FRIENDS

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BREATH, LIFE, LOVE, JOY

Recently, I bought new underwear. As I was putting my new undies in my drawer,
I decided to look through my drawer to throw out the “old” undies.
I thought to myself, “These undies that I see as trash would be an amazing blessing to
people who don’t even have food or shelter.”
Looking at some posts on FB, I’ve been impacted by how much so many of us have
—family, love, homes, cars, clothes, energy, food—

SO MUCH ABUNDANCE.

And there are many here in the US and in other countries that cannot even begin to fathom our abundance.
I believe it’s so important to be aware and express gratitude for who we are,
what we have in our lives and be conscious of ways to share our blessings with others.
Sharing blessings can be as simple as smiling, lending a hand, giving a dollar, being kind–
the list is endless as to how each of us can share ourselves with others.
At the end of the day, I believe we all want the same things—
To know that we matter, that we are loved, and that we have a purpose in life!

I am so grateful for all that I am and all that I am being in this present moment.

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OVERCOMMITTING

Do you overcommit? I think we all do at times. What does it mean to overcommit?

For me I’ve become aware of a tendency to take on many projects at one time.

I’m often left feeling overworked, under-appreciated and stressed to the max!

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I once thought this tendency was a character trait I possessed and
I wore it like a badge of honor.
I truly believed it was “in my DNA” to overcommit.

I discovered it’s NOT in my DNA!

It’s a belief system and belief systems can be changed.

I learned the tendency to overcommit at a young age.
Even more important than learning & practicing this behavior,
is the belief system I adopted, or what I made overcommitting mean.

To me, if I said yes, I believed people would like me.
I never thought about whether I would be able to accomplish the task.
I knew I had to find a way.

This behavior helped me learn to be organized and resourceful.
And it also led me to design my life according to should’s.

Who/what should I be, do have rather than who/what do I choose to be, do, have.

What I discovered is that I’m the one who has control over what I think, say and do.

What about you?

What’s really the underlying thread that allows anyone to consistently overcommit?
I challenge you to take one action step TODAY that will create awareness around why you overcommit.
Do yourself a favor and put pen to paper and answer these 3 questions.

What is the price I pay when I overcommit?

What is the benefits I receive when I overcommit?

What does it look like to STOP and BE?

When you complete these questions, I recommend sharing your answers with a support person.
This can be a coach, mentor, or friend who will partner alongside you as you create the next action step choices in your one amazing life journey!

“Your beliefs become your thoughts,
Your thoughts become your words,
Your words become your actions,
Your actions become your habits,
Your habits become your values,
Your values become your destiny.”
― Mahatma Gandhi

FEAR

What is fear?
I’ve heard it said that FEAR is

FALSE EVIDENCE APPEARING REAL

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 It can also mean

FACE EVERYTHING AND RISE

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YOUR CHOICE!

Fear is actually a basic human emotion that can be healthy or harmful.
It is a survival instinct that helps us respond appropriately when we sense danger or feel unsafe.
Fear can be harmful with excessive thinking and dwelling on the “what if’s”.
This “what if” situation can take one down a rabbit hole of anxiety and irrational thoughts which creates an inability to focus or think clearly.

 FDR said “The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.”

 I believe he was talking about this destructive side of fear.

As a human being, I certainly feel fear.
The top 3 things people fear most are public speaking, death and spiders,
IN THAT ORDER.

 Most people fear public speaking more than death. Interesting…  Why is that?  I believe we have that fear because we are human.
We all want to be loved and know that we matter.
When we stand up in public and speak, we are putting ourselves on display for judgment and scrutiny.
If your internal motivation is to be liked and loved, then allowing yourself to be vulnerable can be AMAZINGLY FRIGHTENING!

 

So now that we know a little about what fear is, what do we do about it?’
For me, I believe in FEAR—FACE EVERYTHING AND RISE.
Most of our fears are in our head and I believe that thoughts become things.
What we think about and focus on is what we bring about and create.

So here are a couple tips that I use to move past my fears.

  1. Play a different type of what if game.  

Instead of thinking about all the “horrible, negative” things that might happen, play the “what if” something wonderful happens.
So instead of me saying, “what if people read my blog and think I’m weird”,
I reframe the thought to “what if people read my blog, love it and think I have a lot to offer as a coach”.
Do you see the difference?

 Visualize the other side.  

This involves taking a few minutes to actually picture your desired outcome on the other side of the fear.
Usually, I fear getting on an escalator as I keep seeing myself “fall”.
I change my thoughts to “seeing” myself step on the escalator, ride to the top and “feel” successful and accomplished.

Focus on the opposite of what I’m scared will happen.

I’m scared that if I put myself out there, people may not like me.  Instead of focusing on this option,
I choose to focus on the possibility that I may meet someone who becomes a great friend.

It’s all good to talk about tips to help you move past your fears and it’s another thing to actually get into action and make the move!
Most of us require support to get and stay on track. What I’ve found to be helpful is having an accountability partner.
You can seek support from a coach, mentor, or friend who will partner alongside
you as you make the next action step choices in your
one amazing life journey!

DO SOMETHING EVERY DAY THAT SCARES YOU!

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3 TIPS TO GET UNSTUCK

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Choosing to be grateful and thankful for everything I am and have in my life guides me out of being stuck.

I started writing in a gratitude journal about 2 years ago and it’s made all the difference in my life. Gratitude is taking the time to notice what makes up this abundant life I’m living–breath, another day on this earth, talking with one of my kids or grandkids, connecting with a friend, loving my job, being given the opportunity to connect with you through this blog today and if I’m in a place of “stuckness” or feeling like things aren’t going as I want them to, I focus on being grateful for my story.

We all have a story.

What makes up our story are experiences and events of our lives. What makes up each of our stories is the actual fact of an event and then what we make the experience of the event mean. This is called our beliefs or perceptions. Most of our deeply held beliefs and perceptions of the world are in place by the time we’re 8 years old. About 50% are in place by the time we’re around 4 years old, 80% are in place by the time we’re 8, 95% by the time we’re 21 and only 5% of our deeply held beliefs are developed as adults.

Back to being grateful for my story.

There have been times and situations in my life where I wasn’t grateful in the moment. I’ve come to realize that every experience in my life makes up who I am being in this moment and guides me to be my best today. Then I am able to look at EVERY experience in my life with gratitude.

 Connect

I believe it’s important to connect when we’re feeling down; especially important to connect with others who lift us up. We all know plenty of people who are eager to join our pity parties and get on the woe is me bandwagon. What I’m talking about is having a few people in your life that you trust are able to see you in your story, be willing to be honest with you and support you in getting out of your story.

Creating & attracting your own tribe is powerful!

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I also believe in connecting with nature.

Getting outside, planting my feet in the grass, watching the trees blow, listening to the birds singing, sitting at the beach watching & listening to the waves–you get the picture. I find being connected to nature helps me ground and center.

Act

Often when I’m in stuck in my stuff, I’m in overwhelm. There are times when I’ve overcommitted in my life. I know when I overcommit with so many “things to do” I can get stuck and not want to do anything. I can become paralyzed with inactivity. What helps me is to take an action step, one action step.

I find taking even one small action step to move me forward supports me in getting unstuck. It can be to make a phone call, answer an email, or even take 5 minutes to meditate or visualize. There is immense power in meditation and visualization. And the great thing is that both of these experiences don’t take long and don’t have to look a certain way. Meditation as defined by Deepak Chopra is a tuning in, getting in touch with it all, finding the peace within, a way to get in the space between your thoughts.

Visualization is a technique of using our imagination to create what we want in our lives.

Now that you’ve been given these 3 tips to get unstuck, what is your next action step?

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