What is fear?
I’ve heard it said that FEAR is
FALSE EVIDENCE APPEARING REAL
It can also mean
FACE EVERYTHING AND RISE
Fear is actually a basic human emotion that can be healthy or harmful.
It is a survival instinct that helps us respond appropriately when we sense danger or feel unsafe.
Fear can be harmful with excessive thinking and dwelling on the “what if’s”.
This “what if” situation can take one down a rabbit hole of anxiety and irrational thoughts which creates an inability to focus or think clearly.
FDR said “The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.”
I believe he was talking about this destructive side of fear.
As a human being, I certainly feel fear.
The top 3 things people fear most are public speaking, death and spiders,
IN THAT ORDER.
Most people fear public speaking more than death. Interesting… Why is that? I believe we have that fear because we are human.
We all want to be loved and know that we matter.
When we stand up in public and speak, we are putting ourselves on display for judgment and scrutiny.
If your internal motivation is to be liked and loved, then allowing yourself to be vulnerable can be AMAZINGLY FRIGHTENING!
So now that we know a little about what fear is, what do we do about it?’
For me, I believe in FEAR—FACE EVERYTHING AND RISE.
Most of our fears are in our head and I believe that thoughts become things.
What we think about and focus on is what we bring about and create.
So here are a couple tips that I use to move past my fears.
- Play a different type of what if game.
Instead of thinking about all the “horrible, negative” things that might happen, play the “what if” something wonderful happens.
So instead of me saying, “what if people read my blog and think I’m weird”,
I reframe the thought to “what if people read my blog, love it and think I have a lot to offer as a coach”.
Do you see the difference?
Visualize the other side.
This involves taking a few minutes to actually picture your desired outcome on the other side of the fear.
Usually, I fear getting on an escalator as I keep seeing myself “fall”.
I change my thoughts to “seeing” myself step on the escalator, ride to the top and “feel” successful and accomplished.
Focus on the opposite of what I’m scared will happen.
I’m scared that if I put myself out there, people may not like me. Instead of focusing on this option,
I choose to focus on the possibility that I may meet someone who becomes a great friend.
It’s all good to talk about tips to help you move past your fears and it’s another thing to actually get into action and make the move!
Most of us require support to get and stay on track. What I’ve found to be helpful is having an accountability partner.
You can seek support from a coach, mentor, or friend who will partner alongside
you as you make the next action step choices in your one amazing life journey!
DO SOMETHING EVERY DAY THAT SCARES YOU!