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Harnessing the Power of Your Mind Will Shape Your Legacy with Intention

In the realm of empowerment and self-awareness, individuals on the cusp of their third season of life embark on a journey together, exploring the profound connection between our thoughts, our mental well-being, and the legacies we intentionally create & leave behind.

As we dive into the theme “Thoughts Become Things”, our mission is clear: to harness the far-reaching implications that mindful intention has in shaping our lives and legacies. As we approach this transformative phase with confidence and zest, we step into an adventure of self-discovery and endless possibilities while honoring the unsung heroes who have touched our lives.

Embracing Confidence

In the tapestry of our lives, confidence is the thread that holds it all together.  As we move into the later seasons of our lives, it is common to grapple with feelings of doubt and uncertainty. Remember, my dear timeless treasures, that confidence is not about having all the answers; it is about trusting in your own abilities and embracing your unique gifts.

After dedicating over four decades of my life to working in the Neonatal Intensive Care Unit (NICU), I cultivated a deep sense of confidence in my abilities to care for fragile newborns and support their families through challenging times. However, upon entering ‘retirement’ and transitioning into entrepreneurship, I found myself grappling with newfound uncertainty and self-doubt. It was during this pivotal moment in my life that I embarked on a journey of self-discovery and reinvention.

By celebrating my strengths and honing in on the skills and experiences that had shaped me into the caregiver I was, I began to reclaim my confidence. Embracing the role of a life legacy coach allowed me to not only rediscover my sense of purpose but also to shift my perspective on what is possible in this new chapter of my life. Through this transformative experience, I learned firsthand the power of confidence in shaping both my mindset and my legacy.

As we cultivate our confidence from within through celebration of our strengths and accomplishments, we begin to accept the truth that we are capable of greatness at any age.  As we nurture our confidence, we grow in our ability to shift our perception of the power of our thoughts and gain a more aware perspective.

Understanding the Power of Your Thoughts

Our thoughts create our reality. As we reflect on the profound impact our thoughts have on our actions, decisions, and outcomes, we begin to recognize the intricate connection between mindset and legacy, understanding that a positive outlook can serve as a catalyst for creating a meaningful and impactful way of living.

Have you ever paused to consider the thoughts that occupy your mind on a daily basis?

How do they shape your perception of yourself, your relationships, and the world around you?  As we explore this concept, let’s consider how our thoughts shape not only our personal narratives but also the legacies we leave for future generations. Let’s dive deeper into the importance of mental health and well-being in shaping our thoughts and ultimately, our living legacies.

Cultivating Impactful Legacies by Prioritizing Mental Well-being

Many professionals, particularly nurses and teachers, devote their lives to serving others with compassion and dedication. As we approach or enter our post career season, there is an opportunity to amplify our impact even further.  We can continue to leave our mark on the world in many ways through mentoring the next generation, volunteering in our communities, pursuing passion projects or supporting each other as we navigate the aging process.  Our legacies are not defined by the titles we held or the accolades we received but by the lives we touch and the hearts we inspire.  

Unfortunately, as many of us approach this fall season of life, we can find ourselves feeling lonely, isolated, fearful and uncertain.  This can lead to a downturn in our physical and mental health. Our mental health is the cornerstone of our well-being, influencing every aspect of our lives. Consider incorporating one or more of these proactive steps into your daily life to nurture your mental health:

  • Practice Mindfulness: Take a few moments each day to practice mindfulness meditation or deep breathing exercises. These simple practices can help reduce stress, increase self-awareness, and promote emotional well-being.
  • Engage in Physical Activity: Regular exercise is not only beneficial for your physical health but also your mental health. Find activities that you enjoy, whether it’s walking, yoga, or dancing, and make them a regular part of your routine.
  • Connect with Others: Social connection is vital for our mental health, especially as we age. Make an effort to reach out to friends, family members, or community groups regularly. Whether it’s a phone call, a virtual chat, or a coffee date, prioritize meaningful connections with others.
  • Practice Self-Compassion: Be kind to yourself and practice self-compassion. Treat yourself with the same kindness and understanding that you would offer to a close friend. Remember that it’s okay to take breaks, set boundaries, and prioritize your own needs.
  • Seek Professional Support: If you’re struggling with your mental health, don’t hesitate to seek professional support. Whether it’s therapy, counseling, or support groups, there are resources available to help you navigate life’s challenges and cultivate greater well-being.

By prioritizing our mental well-being and incorporating these practices into our daily lives, we can pivot and learn to harness the power of our thoughts. This not only empowers us to cultivate a positive mindset but also navigate life’s challenges with resilience and grace. Approaching our mental health with a commitment to self-compassion allows us to recognize and respond to our needs while considering the impact on others. This gives us space to pause, remember and honor the unsung heroes who have played pivotal roles in shaping our lives.

Honoring Unsung Heroes

Behind every success story lies a network of unsung heroes—those who have supported, guided, and inspired us along the way. One powerful way to express gratitude and appreciation is through personal gestures that recognize the greatness in others.

During one of my coaching courses, we were given the exercise of sharing “greatness.” Every day for 30 days, we wrote a “greatness” note to one person and ‘snail’ mailed it to them. These simple notes expressed the greatness we saw and felt in each individual, acknowledging their unique contributions and impact on our lives. 

This exercise not only deepened our connections with others but also reminded us of the power of appreciation and acknowledgment. It highlighted the unsung heroes in our lives—those whose kindness, support, and encouragement often go unnoticed but have a profound impact on our journey. The feedback I received from a few recipients was incredibly emotional, with many expressing surprise and deep appreciation for the heartfelt notes they received.

Take a moment now to reflect on someone who has been an unsung hero in your life. Consider how you can express gratitude and appreciation for their support and guidance. Their legacies, though often overlooked, are woven into the fabric of your own with the reminder of the power of kindness, compassion, and human connection.

Whether it’s writing a heartfelt note, making a phone call, or simply saying “thank you,” honoring these unsung heroes is a powerful way to celebrate their impact on our lives.

Now, let’s explore practical strategies for setting intentions to live your life with confidence and zest. 

Setting Intentional Life Aspirations

Take a proactive approach to shaping your legacy by setting clear and achievable goals aligned with your purpose, values and aspirations. Embrace new experiences and opportunities for growth, stepping outside your comfort zone to pursue your passions and dreams. Consider creating an art collage—a visual representation of your aspirations—to fuel your inspiration and manifest your deepest desires.

Many Silver Sirens will read the above paragraph and think they may not have time or energy for aspirations. An aspiration simply means a strong desire, longing or aim.  What do you desire at this stage of the game of life?  What do you long for?  How do you want your later years to look?  It might be to spend more time with family and friends, get a job, start a business, engage in creative endeavors or travel more.

Let’s take a look at some suggestions that may spark your passion and fire you up. Here are a few actionable ideas to explore while you create a meaningful, intentional Legacy:

  • Make peace with the stupid shit you’ve done in your life.
  • Make sure that your important relationships are strong and secure.
  • Pay for your cremation, burial and/or funeral now!
  • Start giving away or selling off your crap. Organize the crap you still want to keep.
  • Immerse yourself in the Pursuit of Knowledge.
  • Spend it now. Don’t think you have time, because you might not. If you’ve always wanted to go to Hawaii but haven’t because you were waiting for the optimum time, go!
  • Give money, time, and things away while you’re alive.
  • Engage in arts & crafts.
  • Play pickleball, games or go dancing. 
  • Forgive yourself.
  • Have fun!

With these ideas in the forefront of your mind, let’s explore actionable steps towards your desired legacies.  

Taking Action Towards Your Legacy

It is important to find one’s later years Passion and go for it. Embrace the ‘One Degree Change’ mindset. This mindset is based on the idea that a ship headed to one port will arrive at a different port by changing one degree. Little by little a little becomes a lot.  This is the tool I used from my Legacy Toolbox to bring daily walking into my physical activity routine and release 40 lbs.

Start small and implement daily practices to reinforce positive thinking, gratitude, and self-compassion. Surround yourself with supportive communities and mentors who uplift and inspire you on your journey. Leave a legacy of kindness, compassion, and generosity through small acts of goodness that ripple outward, creating a ripple effect of love, peace, joy and abundance.

As we conclude this exploration of shaping our legacies with intention, let’s remember the profound power of our thoughts in shaping our reality. By prioritizing our mental health, honoring unsung heroes, and practicing One Degree Change towards our life aspirations, we lay the foundation for a legacy that reflects our unique wisdom, compassion, and impact. Take the next step on your journey of self-discovery and empowerment by joining us at the Design Your Life Legacy workshop—where you’ll discover practical tools and insights for crafting a legacy that resonates with your heart and soul.

“Action speaks louder than words but not nearly as often” 

~ Mark Twain


  • Kathy Mela

    Kathy Mela, an experienced life coach and speaker, specializes in empowering women over 50 to live their best lives. With a rich background in nursing and a personal journey filled with growth, Kathy has authored '7 Breakthrough Biggies' and contributed as a best-selling author to 'Called to Speak, Lead, and Impact.' Her innovative One Degree Change method and heart-centered approach inspire clients to rewrite their stories and embrace fulfilling futures.

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